Thanks for your kind information Kandu, I found your email on some website of yours, now I don’t remember.

I tell you the truth. I’m moved by pure curiosity and deep interest together, as I have the feeling that at least the tantra that’s available here is nothing but a kind of massage with a sexual part.

I may well be wrong but that’s precisely the reason why I wrote to a man: a flood of women or girls are taking advantage of the thousand-year-old tantra philosophy to – excuse my language – perform handjobs on their customers. Now I wonder what difference is there at all between doing this type of tantra and whoring around.

I may be out of the way but I had to laugh when one of them told me on the phone: I perform a penis massage, not a handjob …… I’m sorry but to the man in the street that sounds hilarious

Sorry again, but I can jerk myself off saving 150 or 200 euros at best.

A warm hug

Tom

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Dear Tom,

I understand your concerns, but I think there’s a difference between a genital massage and a handjob.

The purpose of a handjob is to get a healthy cumshot, possibly in the company of a hot pussy.

While if the tantric masseuse is skilled and willing, she should guide you into a state of suspended excitement, in which you can prolong the pleasure and explore different feelings, until you literally enter a state of altered consciousness.

There’s a whole universe to discover there.

Furthermore, in a prostitution relationship the client pays to satisfy his desires. In tantric massage the control is entirely in the hands of the service provider. The customer is passive. This allows you to learn things: to control yourself, to let yourself go, to feel.

In fact, it makes me uncomfortable even to talk about a “prostitute”. Not to mention the term “whore” that you use. I think that this devaluation of those who offer a sexual service is a symptom of cultural backwardness. We should talk about sex workers as it’s been the case for quite some time in more evolved countries then ours.

Whether it’s a handjob or a penis massage, it’s about making one’s intimacy available to the other, a delicate performance that requires preparation and sensitivity. And fully worth 150 euros.

Try to reconsider your judgments about those who offer sexual services in exchange for financial compensation, you may find a different way to relate to women in general, and maybe a loving and willing partner to pursue a tantric journey with you.

On the other hand, I sympathize with you and with the sense of frustration that I sense in your words. It’s not easy to be a man, and perhaps it’s never been as hard as today. We are subject to a thousand conflicting claims. And the contrast between the bombardment of erotic stimuli and the lack of opportunities for true enjoyment and connection is bewildering.

Your email has amused me and I decided to turn it into an anonymous post.

Thanks and hugs,

K